Getting unstuck – love what is ahead.

Love what is ahead

Loss is a difficult thing, no matter what kind it is.  A spouse, a job, a child, a pet.

It just hurts. Getting unstuck from the sadness of loss can be overwhelming.

Sometimes we get stuck in the what if’s, why didn’t I’s, why did I do that’s.  Know that what has occurred in the past is just that, the past.  We were given those moments to cherish and love.  Those memories, and seeing them as a gift, is key to embracing the exciting adventures that await.

Love what can be in your present and future. Your past memories will always be with you, now it is time to create new memories.

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35 Comments on Getting unstuck – love what is ahead.

  1. Gary Knowles
    April 5, 2014 at 3:10 pm (4 years ago)

    You do so much great work Hannah. Looking forward to your insights and reflections. There seems to be a lot to learn, and one observation by Leonard Cohen keeps ringing true to me: “…ring the bells that still can ring, forget your perfect offering…there is a crack in everything…that’s how the light gets in…” All good wishes.

    • Hannah
      April 5, 2014 at 3:12 pm (4 years ago)

      Thank you so much, Gary! You have always been so supportive of my work, and I really, really appreciate it.

  2. Greg Le Grand
    April 5, 2014 at 3:27 pm (4 years ago)

    L he didn’t need my forgiveness but he insisted. So, I said, “I forgive you”, and that’s all I can remember. So, even the dead have a past… if this truly happened. It seemed real enough at the time. It’s not that I doubt it, it’s just hard to believe sometimes. My wife, who was a hair stylist (cum psychologist), asked me how he appeared age-wise and said that many clients had told her of similar experiences. I do appreciate what you’re attempting to start here and I will be following you.

    • Hannah
      April 7, 2014 at 3:06 pm (4 years ago)

      Thank you so much, Greg! I am so happy to be doing this.

  3. Debbie Leonard
    April 5, 2014 at 3:27 pm (4 years ago)

    I have followed you and Stonehouse from the time you posted the picture of Schoep and John. Your journey, both personally and professionally, has been inspiring and filled with examples of strength, tragedy, inspiration and joy. Your artistic abilities and compassion, for our fur friends and people alike, speak loudly to me. Thank you for sharing.

    • Hannah
      April 7, 2014 at 3:07 pm (4 years ago)

      Thank you Debbie, that means so much!

  4. Diane Norton
    April 5, 2014 at 3:29 pm (4 years ago)

    Hannah, your post struck a chord in me as did Garys post. My dog, a beautiful Siberian Husky, has cancer of the liver and we are in the latter stages. We still take walks, very slow ones. I’m already feeling the sorrow and I certainly don’t want to transmit this to her. She doesn’t want to eat but I force her, and she finally will eat some with the help of appetite stimulants. It’s just awful. Thanks for hearing me out. I’ll stay tuned, I need the words of encouragement.
    Thank You Hannah for all you do.
    Diane

    • Hannah
      April 7, 2014 at 3:07 pm (4 years ago)

      I am so happy that you commented here. Huge hugs to you – and keep me updated!

  5. Janet Minutolo
    April 5, 2014 at 4:33 pm (4 years ago)

    Through all those that I carry with me forever, I try not to grieve the loss as much as I try to keep them with me. Grieving is a weight that they would consider a disservice to us. Although I for one would love to wallow in my feelings, I prefer to share the joy of small things with them, and just know….peace. As my mother used to say…can’t appreciate the joy without knowing sorrow. Seemed silly as a kid, but as an adult it echoes….
    Peace to you my dear, you are a positive note in this big world.

    • Hannah
      April 7, 2014 at 3:08 pm (4 years ago)

      Love this, Janet! And Peace to you, as well.

  6. Cinde Thayer Iacovacci
    April 5, 2014 at 4:50 pm (4 years ago)

    Hannah, this comes to me at a good time, as things so often do. We’re coming down the back stretch with Hope, who will be 18 on 4/16. trying to stay in the moment & treasure each day. They all are special, but with Hope there’s something more which everyone sees in her, not just us. To look into her eyes & feel her soul touch mine is something I’ve never experienced with any of my rescues. Your photo of John & Schoep really touched me. I like Gary Knowles quote. It’s so true!

    • Hannah
      April 7, 2014 at 3:09 pm (4 years ago)

      Cinde,

      Please give Hope a smooch for me! She sounds wonderful :).

      Hannah

  7. Alison Durell
    April 5, 2014 at 6:01 pm (4 years ago)

    Hannah, Daily inspirational quotes or insights help us all. Perhaps we better appreciate each day and different situations as gifts, having known great sorrow and loss. Some situations, though, are more difficult to get “unstuck” from if there is no closure. Regardless, time has a way of moving us forward, helping to heal with the support of family and friends, and work. Treasured memories live on close to our hearts, the events that are abusive, hurtful, etc. we try to forgive and “forget.” Faith, hope, love help us find strength to move forward, to continue to try to make a difference for others, be they pets or people. Your words stuck in my mind, but I found it a bit more difficult to explain my response. Words can sometimes be inadequate.

    • Hannah
      April 7, 2014 at 3:11 pm (4 years ago)

      Words can definitely be inadequate! I wholeheartedly agree- and that is why it was difficult to actually write this… short as it is…

      • Alison Durell
        April 7, 2014 at 9:57 pm (4 years ago)

        Hannah, I think Kahlil Gibran said something like “Look inside your heart and you will know that what you grieve was once your delight.” Love/hate, joy/sorrow… two sides of close emotions. I let go of an abusive childhood, a bitter divorce, loss of belongings, and embraced teaching kids and rescue work. However, I never quite got “unstuck” from the kidnapping of my children. Life without them has been a painful and private grief with no closure. I know that others in various situations have had no closure as well. However, each day is a new beginning, and sometimes we just have to find positives and random acts of kindness to go on.

        • Jill Mitchell
          April 8, 2014 at 5:26 am (4 years ago)

          dear Allison your story is my life I wish more than anything that we could connect and talk more look me up on Facebook chill Mitchell

          • Jill Mitchell
            April 8, 2014 at 5:27 am (4 years ago)

            sorry typo not chill Jill

  8. Jill Neko-Phoenix
    April 5, 2014 at 8:48 pm (4 years ago)

    I agree. I’ve been holding onto the past as well as loss for a long time now. I realize that grieving doesn’t always happen right away after a loss, and being able to grieve is a relief. I think that holding onto the past can result in anger and I’ve found that my wanting to go back and “right the wrongs” made me selfish. The people that we lost may never come back, but that doesn’t mean that they aren’t still around in spirit. It dawned on me one day after a post you made, that the people I’ve lost are still around, but I had to open my eyes and heart first before I could see this. I wanted to say thank you. You’ve been a big inspiration.

    • Hannah
      April 7, 2014 at 3:12 pm (4 years ago)

      Love you, Jill! I am so happy and blessed to know you.

  9. Miri Holliman
    April 7, 2014 at 4:21 pm (4 years ago)

    Ahh,”the would’ve, should’ve, could’ve’s”…this trio of doubt crept up on me after a few tragic losses in a short period of time. Looking back now, I see I it was all meant to put me on different path. Keep doing what you do so well, photography and being a positive inspiring role model to all. It’s a joy to see you come out on the other end of the tunnel of grief so full of happiness .
    Thanks Hannah <3

  10. Maureen Gosser
    April 7, 2014 at 4:22 pm (4 years ago)

    Hey Hannah, This is a terrific step for you and many of us as followers. That said, YOUR time is precious and full of life, full of loved ones. This venture will be consuming as have the others previous. Please be well and carve out alone/down time for you and your love. I will see you on the sidewalks, let the hugs you receive fill you up and keep some of that fuel for future use. The way to find true happiness is to help others find it in themselves. You do that for many. See you soon.

  11. Barbara Brunner
    April 7, 2014 at 4:41 pm (4 years ago)

    Hannah, outstanding. I have no other words.
    xo

  12. Gwynn Taft
    April 7, 2014 at 7:46 pm (4 years ago)

    You are an inspiration, Hannah.

  13. Julie
    April 7, 2014 at 8:17 pm (4 years ago)

    Beautifully said, Hannah…I pray your current journey is full of love, hope & happiness!

  14. Anne
    April 7, 2014 at 8:20 pm (4 years ago)

    Oh Hannah, Your timing is amazing. Today marks one year since I lost my Mom and i am amazed by how the heart heals. Slowly. but it does. 365 days ago I didn’t think I could manage. I was consumed by what ifs. Now I see what is and what was and I have gratitude along with my heartache. You are a sweet soul with an eye for beauty. Thanks for continuing to share.

  15. Melissa
    April 7, 2014 at 9:01 pm (4 years ago)

    Hannah, your courage is inspiring, and your grace enlivens hope in the future. You have and will touch so many hearts. In the photo of John and Schoep, where I and so many first ‘met’ you, their love and John’s tenderness were beautifully revealed for all to see. But as perhaps more rarely happens, your sweet and feisty outlook on the world was also revealed. A photographer with a ‘small and dark heart’ could not have taken that picture – well, yes he/she could have, but it wouldn’t have shown the invisible-to-the-eye movement of love and hope. We all knew Schoep would die someday, so the hope wasn’t in an even (much) longer life for him. The hope was that love would endure – and it has for them – for John, and it has for you.
    Your opening quote is so true.
    And it is said, “and now abideth these three alone, faith, hope and love. And the greatest of these is love.” It’s the power that can change hearts and move mountains.
    Anyway, thank you for always showing up in whatever you do. I’m looking forward to your next steps, of which this blog is one!

  16. Anne Hovey Brandolini
    April 7, 2014 at 11:30 pm (4 years ago)

    I love your optimism, Hannah and I’m happy to be along for your blog journey!

  17. Christine Brady
    April 8, 2014 at 12:21 am (4 years ago)

    Hannah, you have been a source of inspiration this past year. Your words above are so true. It’s funny, though, some things I can just leave in the past and move forward and with others, not so much. Here’s to always moving forward…HSH Style. Love you!

  18. Thom Campbell
    April 8, 2014 at 3:02 am (4 years ago)

    Awesome Hannah, needed that these days!!!!

  19. Barb Gover
    April 9, 2014 at 3:41 pm (4 years ago)

    or as Arlo Guthrie says “you can’t have a light without a dark to put it in”…….

  20. Fran
    April 10, 2014 at 7:19 pm (4 years ago)

    Hannah, you are an inspiration to everyone. You have faced all that has come your way with grace and optimism. Things happen for a reason and you taking “that” photo of Schoep and John was meant to happen so we could all “meet” you. I wish you much happiness and success.

    • Hannah
      April 10, 2014 at 7:49 pm (4 years ago)

      Thank you Fran! Life is such an adventure- I am loving most of it 🙂

  21. karen armstrong
    April 23, 2014 at 4:43 am (3 years ago)

    Dearest Hannah,

    You have given meaning to so much in my life & for sure others, as you know.
    Time does not heal all wounds, betrayals & the ultimate of death. Yet it has given me the opportunity to choose to remember those loved ones that have/were in my life. Vicariously I have used your loss to remember my own losses.
    Your explanation of loss is exactly what I needed to read. I can only say how thankful I am that you choose to share the loss, love & laughter in your life. Continued blessings your way.
    Many hugs & I do look forward to the day I meet you in person. Hoping to come to one of your speaking engagements. So many happenings to come. Carpe Diem

    • Hannah
      April 23, 2014 at 4:45 am (3 years ago)

      Thank you, Karen. I needed to re – read this post. It’s been a tough day for me, so I’m very happy you commented :). I hope we get to meet soon!

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